Leading up to the big day, Cory and I talked a lot about what our wedding would look like. (Okay, let’s be honest, I did most of the talking and Cory did most of the listening. Haha!) However, the one thing we were both sure of was that we wanted this day to be about more than flowers, dancing, music, and good food. After all, those are things people eventually forget.
While my venue was stunning and my flowers were absolutely perfect, I will be one of the few people that truly remembers those details. It makes me so happy when our friends and family tell us they had a blast at our wedding and they thought everything was gorgeous, but the one thing we hope people really walked away with was the commitment Cory and I both have to love The Lord first and each other second.
I learned a lot throughout the wedding planning process, but the most important thing that I learned as a bride was that your marriage isn’t about your wedding day. Your marriage is about the days that follow your wedding day and then the years following that.
When Cory and I said, “I do,” we didn’t mean, “I do, except if he…,” or, “I do, except if she…” When we said, “I do,” we meant, “I do.” I know that I will mess up time and time again in our marriage, but thankfully, Cory didn’t marry me because he thought I was perfect.
I used to think that the only reason people got married was because they were in love and they made each other happy. I’ve since learned that that is not true. Marriage isn’t about being happy. Don’t get me wrong, being married to Cory makes me the happiest person in the world, but that is not why we got married. If Cory married me because I make him feel a certain way, then what would happen if I was no longer making him feel happy? Marriage, as it turns out, is not about feelings. Instead, marriage is a forever covenant we made before the Lord. We want our marriage to ultimately paint a picture of Jesus’ unconditional (no matter what!) love for the people He created. Even in our brokenness, Jesus kept his commitment to us on the cross. In the same way, Cory and I are to keep our commitment to each other. God’s best for us means that marriage is forever.
Cory and I have a lot to learn about being husband and wife, but I am so grateful that our marriage is built on the foundation we both have in Jesus. My prayer for the years to come is that whenever we experience disappointment in marriage, we would both turn to the one who created marriage in the first place. I hope we will look up rather than at ourselves, and that we would learn from Jesus’ example of perfect and selfless love. I know that we are two broken people who will fail, but I am confident that if we consistently remind ourselves what is true, we will be just fine!
Being married to my husband is the best blessing and gift I have ever received. God knew what he was doing when he placed Cory Cotton in my life. Happy four months to my forever best friend! I love you so much!
**All photos by the talented Lauren Peele
P.S. If you are engaged, consider hiring the vendors below because they are all amazing!!
Photographer- Lauren Peele
Florals- The Southern Table
Makeup- Melanie Ward
Venue- The Venue at Waterstone
Hair- Danica Rey
Wedding Planner- Lindsey Brunk
Dj- Adam Wilmore